A Blog About Being Single

A Blog About Being Single


A word that is rarely used in a positive light. A term that nobody likes to be labeled as. A definition that no one wants to be defined by. A status of who we are in society. 

Over the past few years, I have been pondering on this word. 

I’ve mulled over how the world views it. 

I’ve thought about how the church responds to it. 

I’ve looked at what my friends and family say about it. 


I read a blog some years ago that promoted the idea that “singleness is not a curse.” While I happen to agree, unfortunately, our culture tends to respond to singleness as a problem that needs to be fixed. We don’t want to admit it, but it shows in our actions towards singles and how we regard them. 

We talk about marriage as a good gift, which it is. However, we need to define singleness as an equally good gift, too. Otherwise, many singles end up blaming God, unintentionally, assuming He has saved the best gift for a select portion of the population, that the rest of humanity misses out on….

But this doesn’t fit in with the character of God. That’s not in His nature. He doesn’t play favorites. 

What if being single is His good gift for you? 

A gift is for enjoyment! A thing meant to benefit and bless the recipient, not something to hold begrudgingly.  

So how do we go about enjoying this gift the world tells us to be ashamed of? 


Being single is, quite frankly, amazing! I get to decorate how I like, cook what I want, make trips without having to see if my partner wants to go along and coordinate our schedules. I can watch whatever show I want to at night and binge it for as long as I wish. On Saturdays I can sleep in until 10 o’clock without being awoken by the pitter patter of children’s feet on the floor, and when a decision needs to be made, I can make that call for myself. Some may see these things as selfish, but I consider them a part of the gift of singleness…and I wouldn’t trade these years for anything! 

Without a spouse I am not lacking relationship. It simply means that my focus isn’t on a partnership with my husband, but rather on my own needs as well as the needs of friends and family. Thoughtful, and diligent in multiple other relationships without divided attention. 

Paul’s famous quote on singleness and marriage is found in 1 Corinthians 7:7, “I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.” 

In reality, the gift of being single provides blessings that go beyond Paul’s words.