But God calls us to abide. To live according to His perspective. He invites us into a relationship that is nuanced with personal, firsthand experience. Scripture calls us to worship a God whose very nature is one of joy, pleasure, and comfort.
Amid heart ache, God’s goodness can seem unfathomable. Being told to consider God’s goodness while brokenhearted can be offensive, even.
Enter the humanity of Christ.
The prophet Isaiah spoke of the coming Messiah with words that bring deep comfort. “He was despised and rejected— a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief.” (Isa 53:3)
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted because He knows the pain of a broken heart…of “deepest grief”.
Not only does He know pain, He sees ours. He hears our cry. Psalm 34:17-19 says, “When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.”
We can see throughout scripture that God feels deeply. That He mourns. Being brokenhearted is no mystery to God. We see that He is attentive to the needs of His people. That He comes to the aid of His beloved.
That being said, we also see in scripture is that God tends to work with His people through processes. Sure, there are moments of the instant, the shocking, and the miraculous. But when we step back and look at the entirety of the Bible, we see repeatedly that God’s go-to method involves process. Patience, forbearance, long-suffering are some of His favorite tools. He is a long-haul God. Easy fixes and patch jobs are beneath Him. He wants His children to heal thoroughly and completely. This requires process.
This process looks different for each person, for each heart break. When we entrust the Lord with our broken hearts, He doesn’t promise that the feeling of grief or mourning will go away. But He does promise peace, deliverance, and refuge. God sees the unseen and acknowledges the unspoken. When we are fully known and fully loved amid our anguish, there is comfort in the simplicity of not being alone.
In my experience, God heals a broken heart over time. He touches the hurt, and makes it hurt just a little less. And then He does it again. He speaks softly just what you need to hear. He brings peace to confusion. And eventually, you can look at your broken heart through His eyes. His perspective.